As we wrap up 2017, I wanted to share some words of wisdom that came from my daughter, Erin. I sometimes feel like she has the ability to take the lessons I want to share, but put them in a very fun, succinct and snappy way.
I hope you all enjoy this!
2017 was a really tough year for our country, our Earth and for many of us as individuals. Here are a few things I had to remind myself of constantly, but man alive were they important for me!
Kindness: Offering another human kindness is the greatest gift we can ever give. No matter how perfect someone’s life may appear on the outside, we all have challenges, we all have demons and we all face struggles. Being kind and offering empathy, instead of rushing to judgment, allows us to be more connected with each other in the world and the people we treat that way feel it and are more likely to reciprocate it back to us and others.
Love! Love! Love! Love! Love:
We human beings get so caught up in the politics of love that are fueled by insecurity. How much love should we show? Should we make our love for someone else known? Should we take the love away if we feel rejected? Short answer: No! Loving with an open and full heart makes us better people and being vulnerable with another human being makes us braver and strong!
But this brings me to…
Boundaries: We are never the victim of someone else’s treatment. We are always responsible for how we allow others to treat us, be it lovers, friends, family members or random strangers. If we don’t like the way someone is treating us, it is important to communicate our boundaries kindly and then remove ourselves from the situation. More important than blindly loving others is making sure that we take time to love ourselves!
Tell the Truth: This year, I opted for honesty in many situations where I might have felt awkward in years past. Instead of running away or hiding, or ignoring things that made me uncomfortable, or brought up questions for me, I asked those questions and I told those truths. I opted for open communication with friends, romantic partners, family members and colleagues, and something really wonderful happened. Once that insecurity of being open passed, I felt empowered by the knowledge I received and I was able to take it and learn and grow.
Listen: Speaking our minds is so important but equally important is allowing others to do the same. Listening with the intent to learn was something I heard in a TED talk this year and I've been working on it ever since. We can never come together as a nation or world if we don't hear each other and keep open minds and open hearts. Here’s to continued growth in 2018!
Erin is a singer and writer based in Los Angeles. You can learn more about her by visiting her website.
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PAULA SHAW, CADC, DCEP is an author, Energy Psychology specialist, therapist, speaker, Reiki Master and Grief Counselor. For more than 20 years, Paula has been passionate about empowering people who are dealing with profound loss, so they can reap something truly beautiful from their pain. She also helps clients who are going through major life transitions or seeking freedom from self-destructive addictions. She has degrees in Education and Communications from Long Beach State University, as well as graduate counseling credentials from Loyola Marymount University. She is one of the founding members of the Association of Comprehensive Energy Psychology and currently serves on its board of directors. Paula is the author of Chakras, the Magnificent Seven (2002), as well as "Grief...When Will This Pain Ever End?" Finding Your Way out of the Pit of Despair After Profound Loss.
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