Here we are again… Week One, of another new year. Somehow we know innately that this is a special time, a time to start over and create things differently. Yet, how many of us really do that? How many of us just seem to be creating the same year over and over again, just like that day in the movie, Groundhog Day where the same thing keeps happening over and over every day.
What do we do? How do we make it different? It can be baffling that now matter how badly we seem to want it to be different, we can’t figure out how to make it so.
I think the answer is actually quite simple and it’s not about creating the right resolutions. Let’s face it, the whole concept of resolutions is kind of an admission that we screwed up last year and this year we are going to get it right. From the get-go the energy seems to be negative and punishing. No wonder most of us rarely keep them. They are reminders that we blew it and should now be punished and feel guilty.
We have to change that mentality and that comes from inner change not outer change. Changing what’s around us doesn’t change us. We have to change on the inside in order to create something different on the outside.
So begin from a place of self-love and appreciation. You may even need to make a list of things you do well and great characteristics that you posess. Then try the following idea.
How about if coming from a place of self-love, we just DECLARE that we want things to be even better and we are now creating that INTENTION?
Doesn’t that feel better? Doesn’t that feel more like setting a goal to climb a mountain that you are looking forward to climbing, rather than being forced to cross a desert that you dread crossing?
It’s an act of courage to get up and face the world every day. We have all been hurt and known disappointments, yet most of us get up and try it again the next day. Yahoo for us, we are all brave heroes. Pat yourself on the back and know you rightfully deserve some praise and appreciation.
Through this strategy you are building on your strengths rather than focusing on your weaknesses or failures. You will find that as you do this and become more confident and self-loving, you will just naturally make better choices in every area of your life.
For example, I am good about going to my exercise class and I like the results, so I am going to DECLARE that I will go to class every other day this year so I can look and feel even better.
Ok, now it’s your turn. I’d love to hear your declarations…please share them in blog comments right here.
Wishing you all the Happiest of New Years!
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PAULA SHAW, CADC, DCEP is an author, Energy Psychology specialist, therapist, speaker, Reiki Master and Grief Counselor. For more than 20 years, Paula has been passionate about empowering people who are dealing with profound loss, so they can reap something truly beautiful from their pain. She also helps clients who are going through major life transitions or seeking freedom from self-destructive addictions. She has degrees in Education and Communications from Long Beach State University, as well as graduate counseling credentials from Loyola Marymount University. She is one of the founding members of the Association of Comprehensive Energy Psychology and currently serves on its board of directors. Paula is the author of Chakras, the Magnificent Seven (2002), as well as "Grief...When Will This Pain Ever End?" Finding Your Way out of the Pit of Despair After Profound Loss.
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