Paula Shaw, grief expert talks about the loss that can accompany a new school year for those that are leaving the routines of summer, or going through an academic shift.
Ah, fall. Cooler temperatures are coming, the evening light is dimming and children everywhere have headed back to school. A new school year is often a time to refresh or start anew, but with new beginnings can come heavy hearts.
Today I want to talk about the back to school blues and how these feelings can come in many forms. Some children may be attending new schools this fall, or moving up from middle school to high school, or high school to college. Being surrounded by new faces can often be daunting for children, particularly if they were an upperclassmen last year and now they’re a lower classmen at a new school. While some children thrive right out of the gate in a new school, other children experience an adjustment period. During this time, they can seem despondent, or lonely, even depressed, but with the right encouragement and tools this is often only temporary.
However, if you are the parent of a newly returning student here are some things you should know. Your child, even if excited, is dealing with the loss of the lazier, laid back summer routine. Now there is homework, deadlines, tests and a plethora of new situations. Remember, as we have discussed in the past, loss = grief and grief can be expressed in a variety of ways. Be sure that they feel safe to discuss these issues with you so you can offer comfort or assistance if needed.
A return to school is kind of like a wedding, because everyone thinks of it as a happy event, often the possible loss issues are overlooked. Remember, change has loss inherent in it. Something has to go to make room for something new and that undeniably creates loss. So heads up, be on the lookout for unusual behavior from your kids and if you spot it, check it out. You very well may be able to nip a potential problem in the bud.
In next week's blog we’ll be talking about the Back to School Blues for parents. Hope you’ll stop by.
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PAULA SHAW, CADC, DCEP is an author, Energy Psychology specialist, therapist, speaker, Reiki Master and Grief Counselor. For more than 20 years, Paula has been passionate about empowering people who are dealing with profound loss, so they can reap something truly beautiful from their pain. She also helps clients who are going through major life transitions or seeking freedom from self-destructive addictions. She has degrees in Education and Communications from Long Beach State University, as well as graduate counseling credentials from Loyola Marymount University. She is one of the founding members of the Association of Comprehensive Energy Psychology and currently serves on its board of directors. Paula is the author of Chakras, the Magnificent Seven (2002), as well as "Grief...When Will This Pain Ever End?" Finding Your Way out of the Pit of Despair After Profound Loss.
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