Author Paula Shaw shares how putting your goals in writing can help you move beyond emotional pain.
“If one advances confidently in the direction of his dreams, and endeavors to live the life which he has imagined, he will meet with a success unexpected in common hours." ---Henry David Thoreau
Science tells us everything in the Universe is made up of electromagnetic energy and that energy is random, full of possibilities. Which possibilities become “reality” seems to be determined by where we focus our attention.
Energy is mutable. It can’t be created or destroyed, but it can be changed. Therefore, Setting Intention is one of the most powerful things we can do. When we set an intention we are telling the energy what we want it to do. We are taking random possibilities and greatly increasing the odds of realizing what we want. We are visualizing, creating and sharpening the focus on our desired path.
If you are already familiar with the Law of Attraction, you will know “like attracts like”. This means we can only attract into our experience that which is our vibrational match.
So, why am I telling you all of this? And what does it have to do with grief and emotional pain?
Setting an intention creates a difference that transforms our circumstance from one that is akin to clutching a life raft, randomly afloat on a sea of emotions, to one that is the equivalent of being onboard a fully equipped boat, with GPS firing, heading full speed ahead, to a targeted destination.
In quantum physics there is a phenomenon called the Observer Effect. This refers to changes that the act of observation will make to the phenomenon being observed. Simple observation brings about real quantum attributes. We therefore can and do create the world around us.
Setting Intention is kind of like creating the observation that impacts outcome.
In a conference presentation called “Living in the Field”, Lynne McTaggart, author of The Field, says:
To put this into context, if we want to pull ourselves out of depression, for instance, we have to set intention and visualize that more desirable life circumstance in the future. Putting that message, intention or observation out there has a real impact on what shows up in the present moment!
It’s also vital to have a clear picture of what you want to achieve. The benefit of a specific target is that it provides a way to focus our energy in the present. If a genie appeared in the next minute and offered to grant your greatest wish, I’ll bet the farm that you wouldn’t just say, “I’d like something nice.”
Let’s apply this to the emotional pain you may be experiencing due to loss or life transitions. If, in your pain, you allow yourself to drift on the sea of emotions without a destination, you are totally at the mercy of the tides and currents. But if you set out with a goal, a map, provisions and a sail, chances are far better that you will get where you desire to go.
This week, I encourage you to put your personal Intention Statement in writing, describing how you will look, feel and behave when you are on the other side of your pain. Add other components of value to you. Create this description/intention statement carefully, because it will become the NORTH on your emotional compass and help guide you back to wholeness, joy and transformation.
There’s an old saying: “No wind is favorable to the sailor who has no destination in mind.” Don’t let that be you.
Once it is written, I suggest you read your Intention Statement out loud every morning after meditation and every evening before going to sleep. I also encourage you to create powerful, detailed visuals to accompany written statements, because the brain doesn’t know the difference between these visuals and reality. Once it has seen these pictures often enough, as you keep visualizing them every day, it assumes this is reality and it jumps onboard to create them.
To illustrate the impact of this simple exercise, in a Harvard Business School study (1987 and 2007) Harvard graduates were asked if they had goals and, if so, were they written down? 3% had written their goals down, 11% had goals but had not written them down and 86% had not yet established goals.
Twenty years later, they polled the same group. The 11% who had goals (but not written them down) were making twice as much as the 86% who had no goals. However, the 3% who had written down their goals were making over 10 times more than the average of all the other graduates...and 98% of all the wealth resided with that same 3%!
While grief and emotional pain are certainly different from earning money, the important point here is the level of success in attaining what was wanted by the group who wrote down their goals. This can be applied to any area of your life – including healing.
You can find much more in-depth information on the importance of Setting Intention in my forthcoming book “When Will This Pain Ever End?”
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PAULA SHAW, CADC, DCEP is an author, Energy Psychology specialist, therapist, speaker, Reiki Master and Grief Counselor. For more than 20 years, Paula has been passionate about empowering people who are dealing with profound loss, so they can reap something truly beautiful from their pain. She also helps clients who are going through major life transitions or seeking freedom from self-destructive addictions. She has degrees in Education and Communications from Long Beach State University, as well as graduate counseling credentials from Loyola Marymount University. She is one of the founding members of the Association of Comprehensive Energy Psychology and currently serves on its board of directors. Paula is the auther of Chakras, the Magnificent Seven (2002), as well as the upcoming book When Will This Pain Ever End? Finding Your Way out of the Pit of Despair after Suffering Profound Grief and Loss, which will be released in the spring of 2015.
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PAULA SHAW, CADC, DCEP is an author, Energy Psychology specialist, therapist, speaker, Reiki Master and Grief Counselor. For more than 20 years, Paula has been passionate about empowering people who are dealing with profound loss, so they can reap something truly beautiful from their pain. She also helps clients who are going through major life transitions or seeking freedom from self-destructive addictions. She has degrees in Education and Communications from Long Beach State University, as well as graduate counseling credentials from Loyola Marymount University. She is one of the founding members of the Association of Comprehensive Energy Psychology and currently serves on its board of directors. Paula is the author of Chakras, the Magnificent Seven (2002), as well as "Grief...When Will This Pain Ever End?" Finding Your Way out of the Pit of Despair After Profound Loss.
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