By Linda Deslauriers
Hair documents our different life phases. We all go through many personal evolutions and express our religion, political orientation, and relationship status through the way we wear our hair. When something changes, often we cut our hair much shorter or into a new style.
When people come to me for help with hair loss, I always inquire, if someone has died recently or about two months before the onset. Often the first response is no. But then it turns out that a beloved pet has passed or a mis-carriage took place or something else 'died' like a work situation or a loving relationship.
Hair loss deals with the themes of life, death, and rejuvenation. When hair is falling out, more hairs are in the telogen phase of the hair growth rhythm and are literally dying. In that sense each single hair represents the greater cycle of life, death and rebirth.
All over the world people use hair to express grief and sadness, sometimes unconsciously through losing hair, sometimes through a conscious act. There are various customs in different cultures around hair and death. For example, even today in Greece, relatives of a recently deceased person will cut their hair and bury it with him or her, to show that a part of them dies as well or to cover and protect the dead body with it.
When we lose our hair we experience very intense feelings. We feel scared, powerless and helpless. Although losing hair is not life threatening, it still is connected to the fear of dying. Losing hair could be an indicator of a more severe sickness and not having hair and expressing visually less vitality could mean being rejected from the tribe or not being chosen as a mate, which eventually would lead to isolation.
A psychosomatic condition originates by not expressing, transforming, and letting go of our emotions, so that those eventually find an outlet in the physiological realm. We often choose an area of our body that is thematically related to the underlying issue. If it is hair, we then experience loss on a physical and emotional level.
One message that hair loss has is learning to let go, to give up control, and to trust that everything has its course. If a person feels loss of power, then it is important to learn how to reclaim your self-worth, power, and self-esteem, your femininity and masculinity. A lot of cancer patients choose to shave off their hair as an act of personal power instead of waiting for the hair to slowly fall off.
However, I don't recommend surrendering into letting the hair fall for too long waiting for it to recover by itself. A lot of women tend to do that after giving birth. They almost expect to lose some hair. I recommend acting right away as it takes a long time to regrow hair.
When we recognize that our hair loss is connected to an emotion, release begins. However, when feelings take over, cloud our awareness, hold and dominate us for a long time, their impact on our immune system might even contribute to worsen the hair loss. Always accompany any psychological processing about hair loss with physical help in the form of supplements and remedies. Once a condition exists on the psychological and physical level, both need care. During my three decades of working with hair clients and hair loss I had the best results with classical homeopathy and psychological processing.
Here is my First Aid list for you to help with Hair Loss
• Give chemical treatments a rest
For the time the hair is obviously going through stress, stop using chemical treatments. If not dying your hair stresses you even more, do what makes you stronger.
• Touch and love your scalp and hair
The hair that comes out, when you touch, massage, comb and brush your hair would have fallen out anyway. Massage increases blood circulation, which is beneficial, touch and love are always miracle healers and brushing with a boar bristle brush activates the sebaceous glands and stimulates the roots of the hair.
• Ask your hair what it is hungry for
Just ask and I am sure you will hear your body's voice or be drawn to the right food and medicine. Raisins and apricots have a lot of iron, so do green leafy vegetables. Check your salt intake. We love Celtic Sea Salt with lots of minerals and recommend it for almost all our hair loss clients.
• Receive a High Precision Haircut
Get a blunt-snip or a Hair Balancing haircut as this precision haircutting technique results in more volume and is a holistic healing treatment as well.
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My name is Linda Deslauriers. As a teenager I experienced hair loss, which led me to look for answers. Back then you couldn’t Google; therefore I set forth on a journey that would lead me to a life long passion for classical homeopathy, holistic health, and psychology.
I became a holistic hair and wardrobe expert with now 27 years of practical and research experience. I balanced over ten thousand people’s hair in Europe, North America and Hawaii, hold a Master’s Degree in Clinical Psychology, one in European Languages and Literature, and published four books on the themes of hair, wardrobe and gems.
I met Paula many years ago and she knows all about Hair Balancing and I cut her hair many times until the geography of life made it more challenging.
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PAULA SHAW, CADC, DCEP is an author, Energy Psychology specialist, therapist, speaker, Reiki Master and Grief Counselor. For more than 20 years, Paula has been passionate about empowering people who are dealing with profound loss, so they can reap something truly beautiful from their pain. She also helps clients who are going through major life transitions or seeking freedom from self-destructive addictions. She has degrees in Education and Communications from Long Beach State University, as well as graduate counseling credentials from Loyola Marymount University. She is one of the founding members of the Association of Comprehensive Energy Psychology and currently serves on its board of directors. Paula is the author of Chakras, the Magnificent Seven (2002), as well as "Grief...When Will This Pain Ever End?" Finding Your Way out of the Pit of Despair After Profound Loss.
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