Author Paula Shaw shares simple tips for creating space in your life to welcome in the new, in the New Year.
The ball in Times Square has dropped and 2015 is officially here. It seems like only yesterday that the Millennium was approaching and everyone was afraid all the computers would cease to function at midnight. Now, here we are, 15 years later.
So what have those 15 years held for you? Have dramatic changes taken place? Has your income grown? Is your relationship what you want it to be? Or has life been consistently lovely for the last 15 years? If you’re one of those rare people, this may not be the blog for you.
This blog is directed at those who have had enough of their present situation and want something different, either from their whole life or just a part of it. You may be ready for a loving relationship, a new career or a new understanding with someone in your life. Or maybe it’s finally time to lose those last few pounds.
No matter what change you want to make in the new year, you have to make space for it in your life. Remember: everything is energy. If all your energetic space is filled up, there simply isn’t room to bring in something new. Artists use the term white space and recognize that it’s just as important to the design as colored space. Make some white space in your life on which the Universe can paint the designs you want for the year ahead.
This space can be created on many levels. On the physical level, it’s helpful to clean out the closets, put away clutter, and throw or give away what you don’t need. I once visited a client whose constant complaint was that nothing ever changed for her. Nothing she tried worked and success eluded her. When I saw her home, I knew why. Every closet was stuffed, top to bottom, with old newspapers. There were so many clothes in the closets, you had to wedge something out to wear it. The walls were covered with things she’d held onto since she was a teenager. How was something new ever going to eek its way in?
The same principle is true on the mental level. If you want your life to change, you must begin to think new thoughts. For example, if you are a woman wanting a loving relationship and you have believed for years that men are uncultured primates, it’s unlikely Prince Charming is going to come charging up to your door on his mighty white steed. Perhaps you first need to take a workshop on understanding and appreciating men. You have to begin to think about them in new ways. Similarly, if you want to quit drinking or eating too much, you will be much more successful if you first get your head on straight about the positive aspects of attaining that goal.
I know some of you have broken, lonely hearts and you would like to find a loving relationship. You are working on visualizing your ideal situation – but the face of the one who got away keeps creeping into your visualization. I encourage you to actively change that face to a neutral one, to create an opening for someone new. Otherwise, your brain and the Universe think they are being shown what is desired and will keep being attracted to that same person. I have found it helpful to use the face of an actor.
The bottom line is: you have to change it up, or the brain will lapse into its old groove. Even if it’s a painful groove, there is a certain degree of comfort in the familiar. If you want something new, you have to do something new. What do you have to lose?
To do this:
Example: I want to lose those final 15 pounds
It’s a good idea to decide which things you will do on what days and write them down. There is power in the commitment of writing things down – utilize it.
One last area that’s important to look at is your talk. Words have power and we all need to be more conscious of the words we are using. If you want to create more money in your life, stop saying, “I can’t afford it.” If you want a partner, stop complaining about how lonely you are. And for God’s sake, stop saying how much you hate your job if you are trying to create the career of your dreams.
Some of my clients who have the most difficulty with creating change in their lives are the ones who are always saying, “I hate my life.” When the brain hears that over and over, it assumes this is the norm and will work to help you create more of the same. Brain chemicals and physical functioning will align with your constant observation of a life worth hating.
We have a lot of power to create. What will you create this year? Decide what you want and begin today. Whether you clean out just one cupboard or begin a new self-help program…start now. Make a space and get it in place.
2015 is here, and 2016 will be here before we know it. What will you have to be proud of and grateful for on this day next year? It’s totally up to you.
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PAULA SHAW, CADC, DCEP is an author, Energy Psychology specialist, therapist, speaker, Reiki Master and Grief Counselor. For more than 20 years, Paula has been passionate about empowering people who are dealing with profound loss, so they can reap something truly beautiful from their pain. She also helps clients who are going through major life transitions or seeking freedom from self-destructive addictions. She has degrees in Education and Communications from Long Beach State University, as well as graduate counseling credentials from Loyola Marymount University. She is one of the founding members of the Association of Comprehensive Energy Psychology and currently serves on its board of directors. Paula is the auther of Chakras, the Magnificent Seven (2002), as well as the upcoming book When Will This Pain Ever End? Finding Your Way out of the Pit of Despair after Suffering Profound Grief and Loss, which will be released in the spring of 2015.
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PAULA SHAW, CADC, DCEP is an author, Energy Psychology specialist, therapist, speaker, Reiki Master and Grief Counselor. For more than 20 years, Paula has been passionate about empowering people who are dealing with profound loss, so they can reap something truly beautiful from their pain. She also helps clients who are going through major life transitions or seeking freedom from self-destructive addictions. She has degrees in Education and Communications from Long Beach State University, as well as graduate counseling credentials from Loyola Marymount University. She is one of the founding members of the Association of Comprehensive Energy Psychology and currently serves on its board of directors. Paula is the author of Chakras, the Magnificent Seven (2002), as well as "Grief...When Will This Pain Ever End?" Finding Your Way out of the Pit of Despair After Profound Loss.
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